Paralyzed by Perfection? Why You Don’t Need the “Perfect” WHY to Start Moving Forward
Jul 16, 2025The other night, I had a heart-to-heart with a client who was feeling stuck.
She told me she couldn’t move forward in her healing and coaching journey because she hadn’t found her perfect “why.” Her reason for being. Her ultimate purpose here on earth.
She believed that until she had that crystal-clear, perfectly-worded, soul-aligned purpose statement… she couldn't take the next step.
Sound familiar?
❌ Why Perfection Keeps You Stuck
We live in a world that praises clarity, confidence, and polished stories. But here’s the truth that most women need to hear:
You do NOT need a perfect “why” to move forward.
In fact, waiting until your purpose feels perfect is often what keeps you stuck in analysis paralysis, self-doubt, and inaction.
Let me say this clearly:
💬 Your “why” doesn’t have to be final.
💬 It doesn’t have to sound good to anyone else.
💬 It just needs to be true enough to move you forward today.
🔁 Your WHY Can—and Will—Evolve
Our purpose is not a fixed destination. It’s a living, breathing guidepost that shifts as we grow, heal, and change.
The “why” that fuels you today might look totally different six months from now—and that’s okay.
It’s supposed to evolve.
What matters more than a perfect reason?
Progress.
Every step you take, even in uncertainty, moves you closer to the woman you’re becoming.
🧠 What’s Really Behind the Need for a Perfect Why?
Perfectionism isn’t always about vanity or control.
Often, it’s rooted in fear:
-
Fear of failure
-
Fear of being misunderstood
-
Fear of making the wrong choice
-
Fear that we’re not enough unless we do it “right”
But here’s a truth to anchor you:
The most powerful transformations begin with imperfect steps.
✨ A New Definition of “Perfect”
What if perfect isn’t polished or final?
What if perfect is simply… aligned with where you are right now?
That one tiny step—writing a messy first draft of your why, signing up for that workshop, sharing your story even when it shakes your voice—that’s the kind of “perfect” that changes lives.
✅ Action Step: Draft Your “Why,” Then Move
Grab a pen and try this:
-
Ask yourself: What matters most to me today?
-
Write it down—without editing.
-
Ask: What’s one small step I can take with this in mind?
